Walking away

There will come a time in life where you have to decide whether or not to walk away from a situation or a person. There comes a time when you feel unsure about what to do or how to react or how to move forward. Should I walk away? Should I give him another chance? Would she ever change? Is he good for me? Can I ever forgive and forget? These questions linger in your mind night and day. And the answer is simply yes or no but often a times we try to convince ourselves of how we should feel or we decide based on what other people think we should do. The real question is how do YOU truly feel? What do you think about him/her or the situation after the anger subsided? How do you truly feel when you understand the circumstances? Do you think you could see that person again? Do you think they made an honest mistake in hurting you? Or is this their true nature?

Most times we know these answers but they come to us after some time, after serious self searching, after proper analysis of everything, after settling some of the bitterness and pain. Sadly, for some of us we know what we have to do but it hurts, you know. You love him, why would you walk away? You’ve been through so much already, why separate? Or you’ve grown accustomed to being insulted or abused already, what more can I do because I am helpless?

The truth is we all have the choice to walk away from toxic people, abusive people, negativity, pain. It may sting your heart but after awhile you realize that it is time to heal and move on. You have to understand how toxic that person was and what they did to you was traumatic. Distancing yourself from all that makes the picture more clearer and you realize what you really deserve in life and how you should be treated.

Or you may decide to stay because you understand what that person done to you could be forgiven and fixed. Maybe this was the first time she lied to you but maybe it was for a good reason. But you have to explain to that person your no lying policy even if it is a ”good” lie.

It’s all up to you. But don’t walk away simply because you feel it’s the easiest thing to do. Do what is right for you, not what is easy. Decide based on your standards. Decide based on this person’s history with you. Look back and understand how they behaved with you before. It could be a friend , spouse, relative, boyfriend, girlfriend. With all these relationships, only you can decide if to stick around or try to fix things or walk away from the situation now because its beyond repair. Also, you have to realize that you cannot FIX anyone. They have to understand the nature of their faults and the consequences of their actions. And yes you can discuss that with them and if they hurt you more or insult you or never they never try to correct their behavior then , my love, you know what you have to do. Because you have to protect your peace.

I have been one who walked away from pain, insults, emotional abuse. I couldn’t take anymore. I felt frustrated, embarrassed, alone, threatened, bitter. I didn’t have the strength to trust anyone. I still do have trust issues because of traumatic events I’ve encountered within that relationship. It’s tough but slowly I’m healing. I work on me and I try to understand that within me holds great power and I want you know that you do too. Don’t feel obligated to stay with your bf/gf or spouse or friend just because you are afraid of being alone, or because you love them. I learnt that you could love someone and send them best wishes from a distance. Sometimes it’s best to stay far but still wish them the best and move on.