Just this week, I was working out ( Yes I’m trying to be fit) and I saw Ms Hot Latina in the gym. I could not help but wonder why I don’t look as hot or attractive as her. If any man looks at her for a while, I think he will enter a new world entirely. And which man wouldn’t want a woman like that? Am I that attractive, beautiful or have a well-toned body? And when I really thought about this, I suddenly remembered all the people in my life that complimented me and told me great things about me. My close friends (although it’s about 3 of them) always tell me about my personality and how much I have achieved so far. That’s great, isn’t it? To have people notice you or find you attractive is self-satisfying and you feel proud of yourself. But that’s the thing, how some people defined my beauty was mostly based on my personality, my outlook, my style and flair. These people that are or were close to me know exactly who I am. Not just on the outside but because what is there on the inside. This applies to everyone. I wasn’t using my story to rate up myself or anything, by the way, my story is a point of reference for this topic of beauty.
Every day we are presented with images of perceived beauty in magazines, on TV, on IG, on product campaigns and we literally feel as if we have to compete as well. Women, in particular, feel the need to starve themselves, wear high-end brands, look on ‘fleek’ all the time. The truth is the definition of beauty evolves all the time. What the fashion magazines deem beautiful is different from yesterday’s definition and possibly next month’s definition. Trends and looks change. And lots of people have this desire to keep up with all of this. This is what is called objective beauty. It’s the beauty on catwalks, media and magazines.
Subjective beauty, my friends, is the real-life beauty. This kind of beauty refers to the overall package, the You package. How you walk, how you talk, how you laugh, how you smile, how you treat people…. that is the beauty which matters the most. Your beauty which is your overall package cannot be replicated and that is what makes you unique. We are all different and yes, this You package contains a few flaws. So what if you have dark marks on your legs, stretch marks, cellulite or low metabolism? You can work on your personality flaws or your attitude if you believe that you need to. You don’t have to change a hair on your head just because a magazine says bald women or men are in style this season or it would make you more attractive. Do you, boo. Do what makes you happy or comfortable but just ensure that whatever you do, it is not an attempt to fit into society’s subjective definition of beauty. Because that definition will constantly change and trust me, you do not have the time, money or energy to keep up all the time.
That feeling someone gets by being around you comes because of your inner beauty. What one person likes about you another may not. But that is okay. For instance, I have this silly habit of singing along to my fav songs when I go out or in the car. Maybe someday, a guy won’t have a problem with that or he might sing along with me. I met people that found that habit of mines annoying but I won’t stop singing guys because it makes me happy. I am a terrible singer but that is okay because that is who I am. I know my close friends and my parents don’t mind at all. In fact, they find it entertaining. Well, would you look at that? That is all part of the package as well as my flaws. Plus, I am trying my best to work on my flaws. It is all part of what makes me beautiful. By the way, things on your body example marks on your skin or a health disorder are not flaws.
I know what it feels like to be comparing yourself to people all the time and thinking about why you are not like those models or those people around you that seem to have it all. But there are a lot of people that have insecurities and self-esteem problems behind those filters and cosmetic surgeries. They also have reality beauty problems that they often ignore.
My message to you is: Look deep within yourself and take note of who you really are. What do you think makes you beautiful? Is it your determination to succeed,
your passions, your smile, your chuckles, your sense of humour or your ability to see the beauty in life? Work on those flaws if you need to, that’s your life challenge. But do not forget to focus on the light that shines within you. Hopefully, those who read this feel enlightened and a sense of empowerment. And you can DM me or message me to let me know what you think about my blogs or how you feel reading it. Be good and smile 🙂
Lots of love,
Reshma Catherine.
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